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Big Bang Theory Stars Talk: It’s Me Or Your Mother

Big Bang Theory Stars Talk: It’s Me Or Your Mother


The Big Bang Theory‘s Simon Helberg and fellow co-star Melissa Rauch opened up recently about a love triangle that is about to come to it’s climax…or in this case, ultimatum!

Helberg and Rauch play on-screen lovers Howard and Bernadette who are in quite the love triangle…with Howard’s mother that is! Fans are well aware that Howard, the resident womanizer, would usually have no problem in choosing between two women: unless one of those women was his mother. “He likes the ladies, but does he like his mom a little bit more?” teases Helberg.

Viewers will find out on Thursday’s episode when Howard’s girlfriend, Bernadette (Melissa Rauch), finally puts his affections to the test. After a romantic evening together at Bernadette’s place, Howard gets ready to go home, once again, to his overbearing, overprotective and heretofore unseen mother (voiced by Carol Ann Susi). That does not sit well with Bernadette, who gives him an ultimatum: choose her or his mother.

“He says, ‘Uh …’ He’s stumbling, and when the girl that you love says it’s me or mom, and you’re like, let me think about that, that’s the wrong answer!” Helberg says. “She gets upset, but he does give it a shot with her.”

But even though it may be time for Howard to step up, let’s not forget that though Bernadette has seemingly broken free from her own domineering mother, that’s how she and Howard first bonded.

“She’s probably took this long [to give him an ultimatum] because she has an overbearing mother as well, so she understands what that’s like,” Rauch says. “It’s something that Bernadette doesn’t take lightly. I don’t think she would throw it out there for no reason. She must’ve really been putting up with a lot. It’s definitely coming to a head. She’s reached the boiling point of how much of this she can take.”

Life without Mrs. Wolowitz, however, may not end up being all it’s cracked up to be. Without motherly love and advice, what’s a clueless man to do in a modern day relationship?

“He’s a mama’s boy. He never had a male role model, and his relationship with his mom is pretty dysfunctional. He thinks women do laundry and cook the food. That’s just what he grew up seeing. He definitely has a little bit of a Mad Men sensibility of what women should do and not in the sexist way,” Helberg says. “His mother is the woman in his life and has been forever. I don’t think it would ever enter her radar that her son would leave. She’s probably picked out his clothes. He’s not super functional without her.”

“Hopefully that makes him endearing and not sexist. He gives it his whole heart and he tries. He just has a hard time not f—ing it up.”

Tune it to The Big Bang Theory this Thursday, February 17th at 8/7c to see the drama unfold for yourself!


  1. That was painful! I was happy when he made his choice and gives it a shot but then he ends up where I suppose he belongs. I just winder where he and Bernadette will go from here. Hopefully she won’t go away….again

  2. I’m going to watch this today during lunch. I had a feeling it was going to not end so well. I really like them together though so I want to see it work out.

  3. Oops, hope I didn’t spoil it for you. It was interesting. It just makes me wonder where they are planning on taking this storyline. I like Bernadette. They are a cute little couple. Unrelated – Amy Farrah Fowler has really grown on me. I was worried when they forst said they were going to add her but she really is funny and her BFF relationship with Penny is great!

  4. haha nay it’s okay. I saw that coming. 🙂 Bernadette completely disappeared for no reason before so I’m interested as well… Amy on the other hand – her relationship with Penny is priceless. Definitely one of my favorite things about the series now. 🙂


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