Would you rather tell someone how you feel or wait?

EverHere · 02-10-2009, 02:19 PM

This is the question that baffles so many!

If you like someone/have a crush, would you tell them how you feel OR wait and hope they approach you?

It's easier said than done, but I would tell them. I'd rather know than wait around for ages, wondering about what might've been and not waste precious time.

If they don't reciprocate my feelings, I can hurt for a bit, then let it fade and move on. I'd like that better than torturing myself, looking for something that might or might not be there.

How about you? It's difficult for many bc it hurts to be rejected and have feelings unrequited.

the oc rocks! · 02-10-2009, 02:28 PM

I have to admit I'm quite an impatient person

I'm a typical cancer, we fall fast and ahrd and so i just tell that person because it's easier to get over it once you tel them. If they like you you can do something about it, if you don't you can move on. i feel if you just keep quiet, you make yourself stay in limbo and you can't really move either way then so it's better out than in

EverHere · 02-10-2009, 02:41 PM

Exactly! I keep telling my friends that. I'm like.. it takes only a short while to tell them that you like them, instead of running through your mind for days, months, years wondering if they like you or not!

This is something I've only begun acting on! I told my crush, and I ended up with the "Mr. Nice Guy/Girl" syndrome response, which annoys me!! lol

the oc rocks! · 02-10-2009, 02:47 PM

Yeah I'e only recently (like from last year) decided to stop faffing around

I just can't be bothered to make a repeat of a terrible time for me. Thankfully the guy and me are still mates btu had i told him earlier we could have avoided such a stupid incident and time, it toko longer for me to get over him because i spent so long keeping it in and it built up. I love the guy to bits now, but as a mate, he's with my best friend and they both are amazing, we're all really close and i can talk to them both about anything but at one point i felt like everything was terrible because i couldnt even hang with the two without feeling weird and stuff. Had i told him before he would have said no i don't like you but we're friends still. I like being told where i stand. i've also had to be the guy in a situation where someone has told me they like me and I have to let them down gently, it's hard because I tell them I don't like them and i feel so harsh but i don't like giving false hope, it's just not right!

*Andrea* · 02-10-2009, 02:51 PM

yea i can see why its like that for you

i'm not sure because i hate rejection so maby i'll wait and see if the guy likes me or i will go ahead and tell him because i wanna see wat the guy will say if i think he has the same feelings

EverHere · 02-10-2009, 02:54 PM

I feel ya! Giving people false hope is horrible. I would like to think I've been honest with people who liked me but I didn't like them. They end up not being so nice to be after for a short while, but I don't blame em - they have every right.

I'm glad you guys are friends now and he was honest and everything cleared out!

YAH!

the oc rocks! · 02-10-2009, 02:57 PM

It was a weird situation so i learnt to just get it over and done with

People repsect you more if you tell the truth, especially where i live. It's an open town so it's better to stay open

I understand why you're not sure, it's got feeling's involved and no one wants to be told they aren't liked in that way. it's really sucky to b caught in that trap :/

dmarisca · 02-23-2009, 01:27 PM

When you look at her/him and you can't help but smile and have the urge to have close by, and the words creep to the tip of your tongue... that's when you let them out. Don't force them, they will get there. I had come across this opinion poll which says 'One of you has to make the first move, or nothing will ever happen.' which makes sense to me.

Laureen · 02-27-2009, 12:37 AM

I fell that love is something we should wait an see for someone who is perfect for you.

Taminar · 03-05-2009, 09:54 PM

I was always really shy; also I was totally oblivious to everyone's personal lives, so I didn't want to come on to a guy only to find out that he's dating someone else in my class. I'm lucky that my husband found me attractive and interesting, because I thought he was hot when we met, but I didn't know his situation and wasn't going to hit on him. Within a couple of days (we met at a sci-fi convention), we started talking and never stopped. That worked out well.

View Poll Results: Would you rather tell someone how you feel or wait?
Tell him/her how I feel	4	50.00%
Wait until they approach me	2	25.00%
I'm not sure!	2	25.00%
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02-10-2009, 02:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
EverHere Intern Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: USA Posts: 706	Would you rather tell someone how you feel or wait? This is the question that baffles so many! If you like someone/have a crush, would you tell them how you feel OR wait and hope they approach you? It's easier said than done, but I would tell them. I'd rather know than wait around for ages, wondering about what might've been and not waste precious time. If they don't reciprocate my feelings, I can hurt for a bit, then let it fade and move on. I'd like that better than torturing myself, looking for something that might or might not be there. How about you? It's difficult for many bc it hurts to be rejected and have feelings unrequited. __________________ Gregory Smith in "The Climb" Now On DVD \|\| Click to Visit The Official Site "Gregory Smith is the rare screen adolescent who is both credible and interesting." - The Hollywood Reporter "A sincere effort anchored by fine performances [from]... a young Gregory Smith." - Los Angeles Times "Gregory Smith does a remarkable job!" - Village News/ Southwest News

02-10-2009, 02:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
the oc rocks! Hollywood Star Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Wolverhampton, UK, (Credit for blinkies go to Krysie) Posts: 6,555	I have to admit I'm quite an impatient person I'm a typical cancer, we fall fast and ahrd and so i just tell that person because it's easier to get over it once you tel them. If they like you you can do something about it, if you don't you can move on. i feel if you just keep quiet, you make yourself stay in limbo and you can't really move either way then so it's better out than in __________________ Priya Come on down to the other side Come with us to the gates of hell We will drag you from where you are To where you belong... Happiest, Dirtiest & Flirtiest R/M Shipper Master of Mon is my rockie sockie Team Randomness!! Team Sponviness!! Team Shriya!! Pri-Dee

02-10-2009, 02:41 PM	#3 (permalink)
EverHere Intern Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: USA Posts: 706	Exactly! I keep telling my friends that. I'm like.. it takes only a short while to tell them that you like them, instead of running through your mind for days, months, years wondering if they like you or not! This is something I've only begun acting on! I told my crush, and I ended up with the "Mr. Nice Guy/Girl" syndrome response, which annoys me!! lol __________________ Gregory Smith in "The Climb" Now On DVD \|\| Click to Visit The Official Site "Gregory Smith is the rare screen adolescent who is both credible and interesting." - The Hollywood Reporter "A sincere effort anchored by fine performances [from]... a young Gregory Smith." - Los Angeles Times "Gregory Smith does a remarkable job!" - Village News/ Southwest News

02-10-2009, 02:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
the oc rocks! Hollywood Star Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Wolverhampton, UK, (Credit for blinkies go to Krysie) Posts: 6,555	Yeah I'e only recently (like from last year) decided to stop faffing around I just can't be bothered to make a repeat of a terrible time for me. Thankfully the guy and me are still mates btu had i told him earlier we could have avoided such a stupid incident and time, it toko longer for me to get over him because i spent so long keeping it in and it built up. I love the guy to bits now, but as a mate, he's with my best friend and they both are amazing, we're all really close and i can talk to them both about anything but at one point i felt like everything was terrible because i couldnt even hang with the two without feeling weird and stuff. Had i told him before he would have said no i don't like you but we're friends still. I like being told where i stand. i've also had to be the guy in a situation where someone has told me they like me and I have to let them down gently, it's hard because I tell them I don't like them and i feel so harsh but i don't like giving false hope, it's just not right! __________________ Priya Come on down to the other side Come with us to the gates of hell We will drag you from where you are To where you belong... Happiest, Dirtiest & Flirtiest R/M Shipper Master of Mon is my rockie sockie Team Randomness!! Team Sponviness!! Team Shriya!! Pri-Dee

02-10-2009, 02:51 PM	#5 (permalink)
Andrea Prime-Time Actor Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: ★Doin suttin CRAZY★ Common sense deserts me, Every time and everywhere you choose to come around. And just when I start to breathe you pull me down again. Posts: 4,047	yea i can see why its like that for you i'm not sure because i hate rejection so maby i'll wait and see if the guy likes me or i will go ahead and tell him because i wanna see wat the guy will say if i think he has the same feelings __________________ ☆Andrea☆ aka Dre Fallbrooke Take Me Under! Siggy made by me The Winchesterettes: Dean's Baby 67 & Dre aWesoMe Hybr!ds

02-10-2009, 02:54 PM	#6 (permalink)
EverHere Intern Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: USA Posts: 706	I feel ya! Giving people false hope is horrible. I would like to think I've been honest with people who liked me but I didn't like them. They end up not being so nice to be after for a short while, but I don't blame em - they have every right. I'm glad you guys are friends now and he was honest and everything cleared out! YAH! __________________ Gregory Smith in "The Climb" Now On DVD \|\| Click to Visit The Official Site "Gregory Smith is the rare screen adolescent who is both credible and interesting." - The Hollywood Reporter "A sincere effort anchored by fine performances [from]... a young Gregory Smith." - Los Angeles Times "Gregory Smith does a remarkable job!" - Village News/ Southwest News

02-10-2009, 02:57 PM	#7 (permalink)
the oc rocks! Hollywood Star Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Wolverhampton, UK, (Credit for blinkies go to Krysie) Posts: 6,555	It was a weird situation so i learnt to just get it over and done with People repsect you more if you tell the truth, especially where i live. It's an open town so it's better to stay open I understand why you're not sure, it's got feeling's involved and no one wants to be told they aren't liked in that way. it's really sucky to b caught in that trap :/ __________________ Priya Come on down to the other side Come with us to the gates of hell We will drag you from where you are To where you belong... Happiest, Dirtiest & Flirtiest R/M Shipper Master of Mon is my rockie sockie Team Randomness!! Team Sponviness!! Team Shriya!! Pri-Dee

02-23-2009, 01:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
dmarisca Groupie Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 12	When you look at her/him and you can't help but smile and have the urge to have close by, and the words creep to the tip of your tongue... that's when you let them out. Don't force them, they will get there. I had come across this opinion poll which says 'One of you has to make the first move, or nothing will ever happen.' which makes sense to me.

02-27-2009, 12:37 AM	#9 (permalink)
Laureen Groupie Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 42	hi I fell that love is something we should wait an see for someone who is perfect for you. __________________ library software promotional merchandise promotional gifts

03-05-2009, 09:54 PM	#10 (permalink)
Taminar Intern Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Pensacola, The Hurricane State Posts: 916	I was always really shy; also I was totally oblivious to everyone's personal lives, so I didn't want to come on to a guy only to find out that he's dating someone else in my class. I'm lucky that my husband found me attractive and interesting, because I thought he was hot when we met, but I didn't know his situation and wasn't going to hit on him. Within a couple of days (we met at a sci-fi convention), we started talking and never stopped. That worked out well.