Long-Distance Relationship?

JayW · 07-12-2012, 04:27 PM

In 2005, according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, an estimated 2.9% of marriages in the United States were considered long-distance, with 1 in 10 marriages reported to have included a period at long distance within the first 3 years. This means that in 2005 approximately 3.5 million people in the US alone were involved in long-distance marriages. It is harder to know how many non-married couples are in a long-distance relationship but according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships there was an estimated 4 to 4.5 million college couples in the US which were in non-marital LDRs.

So,What do you guys think about Long-Distance Relationship?
Would you ever consider it?

SuperMommy · 07-15-2012, 02:53 PM

While I personally would never have a long distance relationship, I am 100% sure that if the two parties involved love each other, it can and will work. Did you know one of the leading reasons people separate these days is because they get "too comfortable" with each other and take each other for granted? It's sort of like when you first meet someone - it seems like you miss them more in those first few months before making the commitment to move in together than you ever will when you are living together and at work or out some place.

I know for a fact - being around someone 24/7 can damage a relationship. It's sometimes like when you are together you spend time apart in separate rooms or doing separate things, and you don't miss them because you know they are 'there' if you need them. But when you separate or take a break or go on a trip, that's when you realize how much you love them. It's sometimes instant the moment you are away from them - if your mind triggers and registers the fact that you know they won't be around for a little, you miss them so much.

So yes, not only do I think long distant relationships can work, I think that some of them are actually stronger than many marriages and relationships where two people live together. The love between the two people grows stronger because they long for the other and miss them. The only time I truly don't think it works is when one or the other doesn't truly love each other and uses the excuses to 'move on', 'cheat' or 'lie' because they are apart. A relationship is a choice. Being completely truthful, I in my own relationship don't understand why it is when my boyfriend and I break apart for a month or he has to work a lot or vice versa I miss him so much my heart hurts, but when we are together we sort of migrate into doing our own thing and don't really spend that much time together. Is it just that feeling of knowing the other is there?

jmcharries · 07-16-2012, 11:54 AM

I personally would not enjoy it but imagine that it does work if both people are committed. I'm not sure it would work right from the start but if both people know each other I wouldn't see a problem. Really it comes down to a question of trust. If you trust that the other person is being faithful and stuff while far away there should not be an issue. If you don't then you have problems int he relationship to begin with. People in the military do it all of the time. One person goes to another country while the other stays in the States and they have a marriage that lasts for years. It's really about each person's commitment to the relationship

dgaige24 · 07-16-2012, 12:36 PM

I agree, I don't really understand how they work.

HSXJedi · 07-16-2012, 07:28 PM

I did that once between high school and college. Not fun.

My wife and I have almost been inseparable for the past 19 years. I can't imagine us being apart for a long time like some couples. But then again people tell us all the time that they could never be together most of the time like we are.

JayW · 07-17-2012, 10:27 AM

Thank you everybody for replying guys. I've been thinking about this topic for a long time i always wanted to know if it would work or not. I agree that if two people love each-other no matter what they'll eventually be together forever. But, At the same time people should live their lives in the present and not be depended on a relation which is based on the 'internet'. so yes, that's that. Thanks all.

Hakuto1 · 07-22-2012, 09:22 PM

For some, 2 metres is very far.

JayW · 07-26-2012, 12:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hakuto1

For some, 2 metres is very far.

That is just plain creepy Hahaha.

beachdreaming · 07-26-2012, 01:05 PM

I think for each situation is different. But if both go in with the understanding of how it will work, I don't see why not. You have to be comfortable with not seeing each other every week and for like talking on the phone to be enough. You also have to be smart and be realistic and not needy.

It's hard to explain without writing a book, but I lived with someone who did the long distance thing and it was nothing but DRAMA for almost over a year.

okiwa002 · 08-12-2012, 12:14 AM

Long distance relationships can work, but do pose a lot of rockiness about them. Trust is vital. There is no way that you can be truly assured that your partner is completely faithful or not... methods of insurance of that can get downright creepy... tread with caution.

SimplyTragic · 08-12-2012, 05:14 PM

I've never been in a LDR, but I don't think I ever would be in one. People are going to be just that, people. There are some though that can last in a LDR, I just never heard of any.

bangaloredataco · 09-04-2012, 06:47 AM

i don't think so that it will work in long term relation.

anawilliams · 09-09-2012, 09:51 PM

I think it's really hard and I have to hand it to couples who were able to work it. Hats off!

07-12-2012, 04:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
JayW Agent Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Mumbai. Posts: 1,104	Long-Distance Relationship? In 2005, according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, an estimated 2.9% of marriages in the United States were considered long-distance, with 1 in 10 marriages reported to have included a period at long distance within the first 3 years. This means that in 2005 approximately 3.5 million people in the US alone were involved in long-distance marriages. It is harder to know how many non-married couples are in a long-distance relationship but according to The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships there was an estimated 4 to 4.5 million college couples in the US which were in non-marital LDRs. So,What do you guys think about Long-Distance Relationship? Would you ever consider it? Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter!

07-15-2012, 02:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
SuperMommy Agent Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,747	While I personally would never have a long distance relationship, I am 100% sure that if the two parties involved love each other, it can and will work. Did you know one of the leading reasons people separate these days is because they get "too comfortable" with each other and take each other for granted? It's sort of like when you first meet someone - it seems like you miss them more in those first few months before making the commitment to move in together than you ever will when you are living together and at work or out some place. I know for a fact - being around someone 24/7 can damage a relationship. It's sometimes like when you are together you spend time apart in separate rooms or doing separate things, and you don't miss them because you know they are 'there' if you need them. But when you separate or take a break or go on a trip, that's when you realize how much you love them. It's sometimes instant the moment you are away from them - if your mind triggers and registers the fact that you know they won't be around for a little, you miss them so much. So yes, not only do I think long distant relationships can work, I think that some of them are actually stronger than many marriages and relationships where two people live together. The love between the two people grows stronger because they long for the other and miss them. The only time I truly don't think it works is when one or the other doesn't truly love each other and uses the excuses to 'move on', 'cheat' or 'lie' because they are apart. A relationship is a choice. Being completely truthful, I in my own relationship don't understand why it is when my boyfriend and I break apart for a month or he has to work a lot or vice versa I miss him so much my heart hurts, but when we are together we sort of migrate into doing our own thing and don't really spend that much time together. Is it just that feeling of knowing the other is there? Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! JayW likes this. __________________ Inside Every One Of Us, There Exists A Dark Side. Most People Rise Above It, But Some Are Consumed By It. Until There Is Nothing Left, But Pure Evil. SuperMommy

07-16-2012, 11:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
jmcharries Agent Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Moore, OK (Oklahoma City suburb) Posts: 1,193	I personally would not enjoy it but imagine that it does work if both people are committed. I'm not sure it would work right from the start but if both people know each other I wouldn't see a problem. Really it comes down to a question of trust. If you trust that the other person is being faithful and stuff while far away there should not be an issue. If you don't then you have problems int he relationship to begin with. People in the military do it all of the time. One person goes to another country while the other stays in the States and they have a marriage that lasts for years. It's really about each person's commitment to the relationship Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! JayW likes this.

07-16-2012, 12:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
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HSXJedi Groupie Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Mesa, AZ Posts: 23	I did that once between high school and college. Not fun. My wife and I have almost been inseparable for the past 19 years. I can't imagine us being apart for a long time like some couples. But then again people tell us all the time that they could never be together most of the time like we are. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! Krysie and JayW like this.

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07-17-2012, 10:27 AM	#6 (permalink)
JayW Agent Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Mumbai. Posts: 1,104	Thank you everybody for replying guys. I've been thinking about this topic for a long time i always wanted to know if it would work or not. I agree that if two people love each-other no matter what they'll eventually be together forever. But, At the same time people should live their lives in the present and not be depended on a relation which is based on the 'internet'. so yes, that's that. Thanks all. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter!

07-22-2012, 09:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
Hakuto1 Groupie Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 18	For some, 2 metres is very far. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter!

07-26-2012, 01:05 PM	#9 (permalink)
beachdreaming Executive Producer Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 10,859	I think for each situation is different. But if both go in with the understanding of how it will work, I don't see why not. You have to be comfortable with not seeing each other every week and for like talking on the phone to be enough. You also have to be smart and be realistic and not needy. It's hard to explain without writing a book, but I lived with someone who did the long distance thing and it was nothing but DRAMA for almost over a year. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! JayW likes this. __________________ ~Mel~ My Tv Obsession\|Going Full Throttle

08-12-2012, 12:14 AM	#10 (permalink)
okiwa002 Groupie Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 1	Long distance relationships can work, but do pose a lot of rockiness about them. Trust is vital. There is no way that you can be truly assured that your partner is completely faithful or not... methods of insurance of that can get downright creepy... tread with caution. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! SimplyTragic likes this.

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SimplyTragic Extra Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Indiana Posts: 125	I've never been in a LDR, but I don't think I ever would be in one. People are going to be just that, people. There are some though that can last in a LDR, I just never heard of any. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter! __________________ Proud No Doubt fan since 1997 No Doubt's new album Push and Shove out September 25, 2012. Their new single 'Settle Down' is out now! Go and get it!!! Proud Neopets player since 2008

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bangaloredataco Groupie Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 3	i don't think so that it will work in long term relation. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter!

09-09-2012, 09:51 PM	#13 (permalink)
anawilliams Groupie Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 14	I think it's really hard and I have to hand it to couples who were able to work it. Hats off! Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter!