Nicole Kidman, mother of four, recently sat down with Australia’s 60 Minutes correspondent to talk about her life, love, faith, fertility issues and family.
The three-time Oscar nominee began with photo’s of her youngest daughter Sunday, and dabbled a bit into their looks these days: “Sunday had red hair, and then it went blond,” she said. “Sunday’s very much her dad and everyone says Faith is more me, but who knows, right?”
Kidman went on to talk about the emotion birth of Faith, their daughter born via a gestational carrier (different from a surrogate, incidentally, since Faith is the biological child of both Kidman and Urban).
“It was so deeply emotional and moving, and having given birth and then being on the place of seeing my child being born this way. The love I felt for our gestational carrier…She was the most wonderful woman to do this for us,” Kidman said.
“We were in a place of desperately wanting another child and this opportunity arose for us, and I couldn’t get pregnant and we wanted another baby. I get emotional talking about it, because I’m so grateful to her. I cannot believe I’m crying on 60 Minutes.”
Kidman, who has publicly discussed her on-going trouble with fertility, admitted that the pain of not being able to conceive is a profound one. “Anyone that’s been in the place of wanting another child, or wanting a child, knows the disappointment, pain and loss you go through trying. And struggling with fertility is such a big thing. And it’s not something I’ve ever run away from talking about, I’ve had a very roller-coaster ride with fertility, I just have. It has never been easy for me. So to now be in this place where I have two gorgeous adopted children and two biological children, I can’t believe that’s what’s happened in my life.”
And as for her children wit Tom Cruise, Connor and Bella, Kidman says that they have bonded with Faith and Sunday, but that they’re in the ‘teen years’ so it proves difficult at times. “It’s so different because they don’t live with us, but I would love for them to come live with us at some stage,” she said. “They’re 18 and 16, they’re teenagers, they’re in a whole different place.”
“Children are children. You’ll die for your children. And when you feel that as a parent, that’s the unconditional love. And people can talk about it, but until you can feel it, you can’t grasp it.”
And as fore future children? “I never say never,” she explained. “I think if you ask Keith, he’d be like, ‘No’…My sister’s got five kids. He’s like, ‘You’re not gonna be your sister, are you?’ But I’m at an age now where…it’s very, very hard to have a child once you hit 43. And we love what we have.”
Speaking of Keith, Kidman expresses her love for her husband when saying this of their relationship; “We found each other in this huge world and we’re crazy about each other,” she said of Urban. “And we now have this family that we’ve gotten to experience in our 40s…I’m so glad to have met my mate, the person that kind of protects me and loves me. He’s a good bloke.”
“Life’s a funny thing,” she wrapped up in saying. “I didn’t think I’d make it to 43 and I have. Maybe I’ll make it to 83.”